Connections is a personals list for people on Are.na. Meet through what you collect and create, whether you’re looking for conversation, friendship, creative partnership, romance, or just someone new to meet.
If you know Are.na, you know. It’s where I go to do visual research, find good books and hot sites, sometimes solo and sometimes with friends. The people who use Are.na are what really make it what it is. Are.na is a very core group of people.
“Big apps” play attention games. This was built on Are.na. The point is not many people are here. There isn’t any algorithm. There are no upgrades. There don’t need to be any because this took six hours to make and runs on Are.na itself.
To use it, you have to be on Are.na. You connect your Are.na account. There’s a series of prompts you respond to by connecting blocks and channels. You can make a connection with someone and send a message. It creates a private channel only you two have access to. Connections stores no data. It’s all just Are.na blocks and channels.
There had been a longstanding joke about how there should be a dating app for Are.na. This is that, but also for friendship, for collaboration, maybe even for work. Sort of like a window into someone’s mind.
At the end of the day, it’s about connection, and approaching other people with openness to what might develop.
I hope you have fun with it.
Background
Platforms for social connection, like social media, dating apps, etc… have very specific incentives built into them to capture attention and value. We’ve known this forever yet not much has changed. While I believe there is a usefulness to spending time in places where attention aggregates, it is nice to spend time elsewhere too, even if only briefly. Are.na and Connections are two of those other places.
Looking at this through a nutritional lens is very helpful. It’s the best analogy I’ve found. I first heard the following from Alan Kay: for millennia, we lived in small groups, and survival depends on social connection. So fundamentally, social connection is a scarcity. A scarce resource. And similar to the advent of agriculture and sugary food, the planet collectively lost its mind at the advent of it and went wild. Sugar in everything, it hits the taste buds and you get a reaction shaped by deep evolutionary time scales coming into moments of pure abundance, and our internal regulation systems have no idea how to handle how good it is to the point of it impacting health.
This is where I personally feel I’m at with social media. I grew up in rural areas. I stopped going to school when I was 10. I always felt like I was an outsider. And I found connection online, and it took me to places in the world (both on the screen and IRL) where I never would’ve otherwise arrived. This on top of the instinctual desire to connect. For survival. And that’s a very sugary taste, right? So no wonder this shit is addicting!
So this points to a feedback loop between people and social platforms, and while I don’t believe anyone is being terribly nefarious at the core, there is an exchange that occurs between attention and value that kicks off reinforcement of unsustainable behavior. Of blowing time scrolling through things you have a latent desire to see, in a way that is not representative of how you mean to spend your time.
And so of course, like anything, the answer is not to cut social media out of life. To fall off to an edge of legibility. But it’s to build discernment and train your mind and body to recognize what is nutritional. It’s hard, but it’s good, and then it gets a little easier. But it’s a continuous set of making the decision.

Small social
Plot, a gallery in Chinatown in Los Angeles, has created an entire social network for their gallery space from the ground up. Entirely vibe coded by Alice. It recreates parts of Slack in a focused way specific to the needs of Plot, and feels uniquely Plot even though it rhymes with Slack. This sort of thing just wouldn’t have been feasible before, and I hugely commend Alice and the community at Plot as a space where there can be conversation around synthetic intelligence, culture, care, optimism, criticism: things that feel contradictory but are actually reflective of reality. It’s not biased towards the intellect or the emotional aspects of these topics but able to contain it all. These are the special things.
Alice calls this Small Social, and I have been adopting the term when discussing projects like this. Connections is absolutely not viable as a platform, but it’s operating on an entirely different set of principles. If perhaps ten really great connections are formed because of it over the next ten years, I see it as a total success.
Time and resource
It didn’t take long to create Connections. Several hours, but likely a thousand or so prompts in a continuous state of honing it in. This let me build something that would’ve been far too time intensive before programming agents, in a couple days as a break between other projects.
In the past, before starting work on Connections, I likely would’ve sent off an email to Laurel, who created the deeply inspiring Are.na Pairing service. That would’ve led to a different type of connection. One not contingent on the likelihood of a work being produced, but simply a shared spark of inspiration.
However, I’m sensitive to someone’s time, and hesitant to share an idea and build excitement about it if I may not have the time to follow through on it. It’s a bit of a letdown, or feels like being flaky. So now I’m noticing that before making contact, I try to make a big dent. That has a tendency to create momentum that I then ride out until I realize, “Oh, I actually believe this is now complete.”
However, perhaps something fundamental to life is the room to bug people and perhaps be a little flaky. These are sort of human behaviors. And to what extent are we “making things efficient” to the point of optimizing out the humanness?
In actuality, I don’t think it’s zero sum. I think you can make things efficiently, and bug your friends about them. It’s easy to fall to either side of legibility. The extremes are the most understandable, and within a lot of uncertainty that’s the easy path to take. So next time, perhaps I put the first couple hours in, then send off a note.


































































